Updated: Aug 4, 2020
The truth is that most life principles are in themselves, simple, commonly over-used ideas but applying them consistently within our now complex, ever-evolving societies are what pose the problem. I attend training programs a lot and sometimes have to pay huge sums that “I do not have” to attend and it’s amazing how all the light bulbs in my mind begin to come on over stuff that I already kinda knew. The thing is that passive knowledge is as good as no knowledge. So once in a while, the mind needs you to reinforce its understanding of certain things for it to fully embrace the essence of that piece of knowledge and enhance its application.
Another mind-blowing thing about principles and strategies is that most times, they are skeletons. They provide you with the core around which you can build ideas, lifestyles etc., in line with your mental, emotional and spiritual blueprints. This is what explains how people can know what another person knows and yet obtain totally different results. This is one of the factors that explains a lot of socio-economic disparities among individuals privy to the similar experiences terms of knowledge. This is a subject matter that I think I will delve deeper into in these coming weeks.
I guess I am trying to say that in learning, you should not hinge your expectations solely to how different and novel ideas are but how viable, applicable and sustainable they are and very importantly, the context in which you can apply them coupled with the atmosphere you’ve created within and by yourself to let the knowledge flourish and culminate into something tangible.
Having said this, I’ll go ahead to tell you of ten lessons that I learned in the course of working a challenging 9 to 9 job in 2016 coupled with juggling a professional certification, an online business program and a number of other personal development projects. Before, you oust Superman and crown me your new superhero, you should know that it was tough and that I failed at a number of things. However, lessons were learned and reinforced and I want to share these with you today. It was in taking stock of the career aspect of my year that I wrote this down in my journal. I will write them here just exactly as i pointed them out privately.
I honestly think that the manner in which these things will be written here and now may not sufficient to address them all the way but I hope to hold a live session on facebook and/or instagram to address them in details and put some context to them. Anyway, I’d be overjoyed to take your opinions, questions and suggestions on the subject matter.
1. 24 hours are enough:
It never feels like it probably because a day is never enough for everything but we get too lost in the frenzy of trying to extend ill-spent minutes and juggling un-prioritized “obligations” to notice that twenty-four hours can in fact, be enough to achieve “a lot”. The questions now becomes “achieve what?”
What is vital? What is needful? What is necessary? What can wait?
Do you understand the art and science of prioritization?”
Do you understand and apply delayed gratification to your life?
You must define what you ought to spend time on or else you’ll spend all of it on not-enough of everything.
2. Never resign to frustration when carrying out a responsibility that is yours; envisage possibilities and make provisions for them. First of all, if it is your responsibility then you should embrace it and before-hand, seek to execute it competently. When you have high and healthy expectations of yourself, it takes away the unnecessary pressure of obligation thrust upon us by others. I mean, you would probably have cautioned yourself even before your Boss scolds you over a job not well done and so there will likely be no offense taken. This can be applied in a thousand and one ways and it works!
3. Always strive for personal development in areas that truly interest you; the unique combination that your talents and skills create are what creates your unique and diverse story and become the bane of your brand as a professional and individual at large. Spending time not developing yourself in your areas of interests or developing yourself in areas that neither interest nor come naturally to you are a recipe for frustration, mediocrity and stagnation.
4. In your relationship with people at work, pick beans. Picking Beans is a theory I developed that relates to filtering your interactions with your environment to take upon yourself things that affect you only positively. (More will be written on this in the near future) You can always choose what you allow into yourself, no matter how hard it may seem.
5. Have a conversation with God about everything and do the assignments He assigns to you before you take a step. You’re never running out of time to the extent that whatever time is left is too little to spend some seeking counsel from God.
6. If you’re going to work hard, you’ll have to invest and save hard or else, you would have worked hard for nothing.
A lot has to be said on this but I’ll summarize by saying that money is meant for the following and in this order: Investing, Saving, Spending or Sharing. Anything other than this defies the ideal essence for holding money as a measure and store of value. Hence, stress will occur. Is this common sense or what?
7. Do not be caught spewing verbal or written negativity about your work place, family, state or country. You cannot afford to destroy your own roots and growth by poisoning the soil you’re tapping from. This is simply one of the greatest keys to prosperity. Great people know it and apply it.
8. Give your substance back – to God, to family, to society, to anybody but yourself in a manner that sets them on a path to sustained growth; this is what begets and nourishes fulfillment. Giving is directly proportional to receiving in multiples.
9. Set goals effectively and pursue them efficiently; Set mind–blowing goals for measured time frames then assign aspects of the goal to fragmented time frames. This sustains focus on aspects, brings about measurability and enriches the journey with renewed vigor, hopes and strategies at the start of each new time frame. Also, it helps sustain the intensity of the motivation to achieve a goal.
Do you understand the art and science of goal setting?
Do you set goals and what techniques do you adopt if you so?
What system is in place to ensure that you are intentional about your goals?
10. Take things a bite at a time and never bite more than you can chew. However, bear in mind that for a 3-course meal to be well eaten, one must bite and have a good share of all courses. Life is a journey, a relay race…call it whatever helps you understand that it is in phases and not a 5-minute surge of current that requires you to be all, do all and have all right now. Be present and aware that your tomorrow starts from now.
Simple stuff huh? Don’t be in a hurry to say yes until you understand, absorb and apply. I hope you had light-bulb moments or at least were reminded of some of the things you unconsciously lost grip of. The comment boxes are waiting to bring me word from you.